GOALS

1. Change my “about” page to better reflect the purpose of this blog–its focus has definitely changed over the past few years!
2. Update my blogroll. Many of those writers have fallen off the edge of the earth. And it doesn’t truly reflect who I’m reading day to day. My blog reader looks much different than my blogroll.

Seems like since the year is rolling by so darn fast, might as well start looking at the new year NOW!

The Legitimacy of Blogging

A friend and I were discussing blogging earlier today.  Some aspects of our open adoptions are similar, so we can relate pretty openly about what our experience is like.  Both of us try to give as clear a picture as possible of what open adoption is in our world, what it means to us, why its important to us, and we believe, our children.  Both of us agree that its not always easy.  Despite our firm belief that overall openness is a good thing–the right thing–, there are events that happen within the relationship that are clearly not so positive.  Those not so positive things often don’t make it to press due to their sensitive nature–whether its just too private to discuss a particular detail about the event (does it boil down to “gossip”?, or that its one of those “my child’s story to tell” moments that we, ourselves can’t own.  For me, quite honestly, I struggle with the thought that if I talk about the negatives, am I being seen as “bashing” Woob’s firstmom, or openness, or adoption in general?  Bottom line, there are parts of the story we don’t feel at liberty to tell.

So here’s the question–if you’re not sharing “the whole picture”, good, bad and ugly, does it make the blog a farce or a sham?  Is it still “the truth?”.  DISCUSS

Lurkers, Unite!

I posted the past few things protected by a password–I don’t do that very often, but sometimes things aren’t just meant for the world to see, even if those things arent’ that big of a deal.  So work isn’t always fun and sometimes M. gets angry…big whoop, right?

But one very cool side thing that happened as a result of passwording–okay two really cool things–my stats went way up, which is fun for me cause I’m totally into looking at my stats page.  There usually isn’t much to report, honestly.  I have REALLY low readership and I’m okay with it, but get a thrill when the little line spikes up   Secondly, and the coolest thing–I have some lurker friends who have peeked out to ask for the password, and I’ve met a few new people.  I can’t always tell who is reading me, especially if they have me on their reader.  Makes me wonder, aside from my 5 or so regular reader/friends–who are the rest of you?

If you are a lurker who generally doesn’t comment, please let me know who you are!  Either here or you can email me at zoobitydoo AT yahoo DOT com.  I’d love to meet you too!