Oh, how I long to be a perfect parent. Well, not even a perfect one, but a BETTER one. Sure, I make dinner and clean house, and love on my baby and come when he’s hurt…all the good, nurturing mommy things. But lately, my patience is just too thin, and my young son’s defiance independence is coming out, and all too often I hear myself doing that thing that my mother did to me–the yelling, cajoling, fussing and lecturing. Ugh. I hate that version of me. And I’m sure Woob does too. So I’m airing it here for all of you to see–maybe a form of self-flagellation?–because I’m sure I’m not the only one (AM I??). And I’m hoping we moms can help each other with some words of wisdom. What helps you keep your cool? What helps you keep the limits that you set, for yourselves and your kids? What is it that stops you from losing it when the power struggles start? See, the thing is I know the “answers” about not engaging in power struggles, using humor, inclusion, taking a nurturing stance, a learning stance…all those nice textbooky kinds of things, but heavens, I still struggle with it.
I have a great, sweet, loving little boy. He is my heart. I need to pull it together so he knows it.