Nonononononono…I don’t think so. This is being written about HERE, and it just seems so dismissive and icky and disrespectful towards the woman that mothered and cared for her child for those nine long months in the womb. The woman who will likely think about that child and the implications of placing in some form or another for the rest of her life. The woman who likely believes her child will be cared for by loving parents because for some reason she didn’t feel like she could do it herself at that time. Birth Lady. (Avon Lady? Lunch Lady? Old Lady? Hey, Lady!) Odd thinking.
The name we use around our house for Woob’s mom is “Mama N.” When I’m talking to others not really connected and use “Woob’s mama,” I am always quickly corrected (as if I’m WRONG)–“but YOU’RE his mom!!” Yeah I am, but so is she, but thanks for trying to enlighten me. And other times I don’t feel like fighting the fight and just refer to her as “N.” or Woob’s birthmom. Again, labels seem so important to folks and we wouldn’t want anyone to be confused about who’s who, would we? In time, Woob will decide what he wants to call N. and they can have those discussions together. Regardless of what that happens to be, I can assure you, it will not be BIRTH LADY!
Perhaps I should change the name of my blog to “Letters to Another Mother.” Feedback??